Since I started blogging for SOL a year ago, I have read countless posts by participants who are focused on/concerned about the number of tasks they must accomplish in a day just to keep their head above water.
Most recently, one of our own bloggers wrote about how he almost fell asleep at the wheel and was in a fender-bender because he was so tired from the cumulative effect of everything he was trying to accomplish in a day.
This is a serious matter when it becomes life threatening!
Are we just trying to do too much, or do our lives require that we take on so much just to stay in the game? I guess we’re not called the “human race” for no reason; everyone seems to be rushing to get things done.
When I retired I vowed to get off the hamster wheel and “only do things that make me happy.” What I failed to realize was that I still have to do the things that must be done and don’t necessarily make me happy.
These things include:
Doing the laundry several times a week…washing, drying and folding.
Grocery shopping twice a week for whatever is necessary for a week’s worth of meals and to restock essentials
Loading the dishwasher at least twice a day; doing random dishes, pots and pans as needed. (My husband takes over this job about 5 out of 7 nights after dinner.)
Collecting the mail and sorting it. Responding when necessary and paying bills.
Recycling. We try our best to recycle whatever we can. I fill and empty the recycling bin several times a day.
Cooking dinner 5 or 6 days a week from scratch. I am not a martyr; I just believe in fresh, healthy food, especially since my recovery from cancer.
Preparing lunch for my daughter 4 out of 5 days a week. We usually go to lunch one day a week as a treat.
Housecleaning: My husband and I share this; but since I am home more hours I tend to do the bulk of it. (He does all the outside work.)
Chores: Short car trips to pick up and/or drop off things at the post office, a doctor’s office, the library and so on.
When I look at this list I am not surprised that I feel busy all the time. Although I’ve retired, all the above still has to get done. That leaves limited time to “do the things that make me happy.”
The difference between my former working life and now is that I make the time for some of those things:
I try to take walks several times a week for exercise and general mental health reasons
I take several classes a week to maintain mobility, balance, strength and peace of mind
I participate in SOL every Tuesday during the year and in the March challenge because I enjoy the community of writers
I participate in a professional group, Long Island Writing Project by attending events and meetings approximately once a month because I enjoy this community of teacher/writers
I present workshops when possible to keep abreast of my field of Teaching English as a Second Language.
We try to do things as a family on weekends which can vary from visiting, having guests or going someplace.
Wow! There are more things I could add, but it makes me exhausted just to think about them. Maybe life on a farm would be easier? Fewer distraction perhaps, but it wouldn’t be me. In the modern age are we just doomed to be multitaskers?